Women Making the First Move-Do Men Like it?

I don’t really mean in the bedroom. I know guys love when a woman takes control in that aspect. I mean, making the first move, dating wise.

You know how “men are hunters?” They like the chase. Well I’m pretty old fashioned and don’t mind letting them do most of the work. I feel almost desperate if I make moves. But do guys mind if a woman gives a little, push? To show, hey, don’t be so shy, I’m interested! Go ahead, make a move!

Is it coming on too strong, to talk to a guy first? Or ask them to hang out first? Should we just show our interest and let you do the asking & inviting at first? How much is too much?

I asked one of my guy friends, actually two guys told me the same thing, they like when a girl makes the move because it makes it easier for them. But then we worry about the whole hunter thing, they like the chase so if we make it too easy, they’ll lose interest, right? Is it all a game all the time?

One guy said his current wife, grabbed him, pulled him into a room and kissed him at a party. I mean of course alcohol was involved and it helped, I’m not saying get drunk and do crazy stuff! I’m saying, she made the move and he loved it. Now they’re married. So, I’m sure a guy wouldn’t mind that.

So boys leave some comments, stories, examples. Let us know how much is cool and how much is too forward so we don’t make fools of ourselves!

Same Old Patterns

I need to use this blog as a place to vent. Not only for helping others, because, what do I really know? I have my own problems. Maybe you guys could help me out.

I feel like I’m never happy. Always in the same pattern. Honeymoon stage is awesome, and then it sucks. Soon as I thought I got a good one, they turn into someone I thought they weren’t. It’s like I can’t win.

When I start dating a new guy, they always have something that the last guy lacked. Something that I realize is important to me, and is a must have in a relationship in order for me to be happy. For instance, my new boyfriend talks a lot. He’s a good conversationalist. We actually talk when we’re on the phone. My last boyfriend, would sit and joke with his friends up at school while I was on the phone with him, just listening and laughing along. He would barely talk. He didn’t know how to conversate. So yay, I finally found a guy who talks. That means he’ll be able to communicate during arguments. But now, the guy who didnt talk much, called me a lot! After work, to say good night, texted me throughout the day here and there, you know, like a normal boyfriend. The guy who talks non-stop, never calls me! NEVER! He used to text me all day during work (the first blissful 2 weeks) and now he might text me once during the day. But after work, I have no idea if he made it home okay. If he goes to chill with this friends, I have no idea when he got home. I have no idea when he went to bed. No goodnight call OR text. Nothing. Um? That’s not normal right? That’s like open opportunity for cheating and taking advantage. Am I right?

How ironic. Boy can talk, can’t call. Boy can’t talk, but can call. WTF GUYS?! Get your shit together!

I always seem to be unhappy. I’m not sure if I’m being too picky or what. I think it’s good to be picky so you don’t settle. Yet, I always feel like I’m settling. Sort of. I do eventually break up with them so it’s not completely settling. Let me explain.

The Looks Department

How do I say this without being so blunt? Well that’s just me so I’m going to say it. I date guys that aren’t even super hot. I am one of those girls who like to NOT be superficial and go for a guy’s personality. Yes, I’m attracted to them but I’m not like, “Damn I so want to rip his clothes off right about now!” about any of my boyfriends. It grows. It grows once I get to know them. But my younger sister, she’s 22, and she’s got the perfect relationship. She totally wants to rip her boyfriend’s clothes off. And he’s great in every other aspect too. Great personality. Pleasant, gentleman, and super cute. I want a boyfriend who I think is super hot and has all those great qualities. Isn’t that how it should be? It’s like, the guys I’m SO attracted to, play games with me. They never make me their girlfriend. They’re assholes. So I go for the ones that are pretty cute and also pretty nice, and I end up unhappy in the end! Looking at other guys… not hooking up with my bf as often cuz I don’t even want to, and whatnot. How did my sister find a hot guy whose also a good guy? That’s what I need and want.

I’m not saying be superficial. I’m really not like that. If you look at my dating record, I’ve only dated nice guys who aren’t super super hot, and who aren’t super rich either. I’m not a gold digger either. I hate to be that type of girl. That doesn’t turn me on. But then I end up unhappy. My guys never take me out anywhere special. Not even once in awhile. They never have any freaking money. They don’t buy me something just because. I am a very thoughtful person and I feel like I get jipped! I’m not asking for much. Am I? Just once in awhile jeez! I can’t even get that.

Back to the hot guy thing. Like I said, I don’t want to be superficial. But when I don’t go for looks, I’m not entirely turned on. My current boyfriend, is very very cute. Blue eyes, great smile. Anyone would think he’s good looking. I definitely think he’s good looking. I am definitely attracted to him. But then, I’m not into his body or style. I hate to be picky but I’m not turned on! Great kisser, hell, great everything, he really is, but I’m not turned on by looking at anything other than his face. He has absolutely no style, and I’m super stylish. He is really thin, as am I, so I feel like I’m with a girl half the time. My bicep is bigger than his! WTF?

Am I being ridiculous? Please tell me if I am. I try to look past all of that but I can’t help that I’m not entirely turned on. If my sister can find someone that turns her on from head to toe and he treats her well, then it’s out there right? Should I look past it, (I’ve been trying), or move on?

So he doesn’t know how to keep in touch and check in as often as I’d like him to and I spoke with him about this, and nothing as changed. Surprise Surprise. He also showed me his wonderful anger issues a few weekends ago. He let something so stupid bother him and he ended up going home for the night leaving me to be third wheel with his brother and my girl who likes his brother. Lol. They’re kind of talking. He said he did us a favor by not coming along because when in a bad mood, he’s bad company. Oh grow up! Do I have to deal with this all the time? I’m afraid it’s a preview of what is to come. Great. And I’m not dying to rip his clothes off. So, are these deal breakers? Oh, another huge one, to me at least, SMOKER. While I’m asthmatic and allergic to smoke. I can’t even bear to be around him cuz of the smell on his hands, his clothes, everything. UGH. I wake up wheezing every time I sleep at his house. He gets mad when I complain but I’m suffering over here! So, now, deal breakers? Orrrrr, work it out? Let me know.

I will take your advice for once and let you know how it goes. Thanks for listening to me vent and reading my blog.

The Dragged Out “Talking” Stage

I have a friend whose dating this guy and I asked if he was her boyfriend. She hesitated and groaned, telling me they basically are (in her eyes) but he doesn’t like to call her his girlfriend. Basically, they’ve been “talking” for about a year.

Let me tell you ladies something. NOT GOOD ENOUGH! Stop settling! I can guarantee you, this guy is waiting for something better to come along. And when he finds it, he’s going to drop her, and ask the new girl out two weeks later.

Guys are go getters, they’re hunters. When they want something, oh man, do they go and get it! That includes women! If you’re talking to a guy for months and months on end, to even a year or so, he doesn’t want you. He’s unsure of his feelings and what he wants. At least that’s what he tells you. But he’d know. If he is still unsure for that long, he doesn’t want to make you his official girl. It’s. that. simple.

Guys really are simple creatures. Every guy that was my official boyfriend, asked me out in two weeks to a month at the most. That’s all it takes for a guy to figure out if you’re girlfriend potential for him or not. We all know you’re girlfriend potential. But maybe not for him. He’s just an idiot. And he’s going to string you along so he can get some in the meantime, until he finds his girl. The girl he really, truly wants.

It’s very rare that a hookup for that long turns into a serious relationship. I’m sure it has happened but I guarantee most of the time it doesn’t work out or doesn’t happen at all. Please leave your comments and share your experiences!

Please don’t let a boy string you along for that long of a time period. There’s a guy out there that will snatch you up in no time! He’ll see how amazing you are, as soon as he spots you! Forget the one that can’t seem to see it in you after a year or so! Ridiculous!

Boys: Learn How to Speak to a Lady

I write such angry posts about boys lol. They really make me mad. For instance:

I do liquor and beer promotions at bars. I know everyone’s drunk and all but my LORD, guys are SO obnoxious to me. They are extremely rude. Okay not all of them, some are real cool and fun to talk to, but some just WOW. They got nerve.

Last weekend I’m doing a promo at this bar. I’m about to walk up to this group of guys surrounding a bar table. As soon as I was about to introduce myself and tell them about the drink specials we were promoting, this big, fat, UGLY obnoxious guy goes, “I’ll buy whatever shots you want me to, long as you take your shirt off!!” “You’re boss will be proud!” 

Excuse me?

Like, why? What is the point of saying that? It’s not going to get you ANYWHERE. It doesn’t even get a laugh from me because I don’t think it’s funny whatsoever, or cute, or anything good! It just pisses me off and angers me more when it comes to guys and their lame ass game.

I don’t know if it’s just the guys around here or what, (NJ), but they are just plain obnoxious, rude, and they got nerve. Did I mention disrespectful as hell? We are ladies. Do not speak to us like that and expect us to like you or even want to talk to you. I basically told him I don’t care what he drinks, I’m not taking my shirt off. Plus, I still get paid no matter how much I sell so be my guest n keep drinking that crap that’s making you brave enough to say such rude and lame comments.

Another example. I’m at a local club where I know almost everyone. This one guy comes up to me and asks me if I’m a stripper at this disgusting low class strip club in my area. He was dead ass serious too. He said I look like this dancer. That is NOT a compliment. I was so pissed, cursed him out, the next time he saw me, he felt bad and apologized. Now we’re cool. See? Get mad ladies, do NOT take it! That’s bullshit. I don’t understand why some guys say the things they do. Come on now. Have some manners.

Honestly, this is how you get a girl at a bar guys. Or anywhere really. You politely introduce yourself, compliment her, and ask her about herself. Strike up a conversation. Don’t use lines and don’t be obnoxious. Don’t drink so much either cuz you won’t get a decent girl when you’re drunk as hell. Be a gentleman, don’t over do it. Be down to earth. Be polite.

Cut Him Out

I’m talking about your recent ex.

Cut him out! For good!

I mean I’ve tried to keep exes as friends. Who am I kidding? It DOES NOT work! Feelings are still there somewhere and that truly affects the “friendship.” The last two guys I did the dumping and I was over them for the most part before I dumped them. I really had no feelings left so I thought, hey, I could be cool with them. I’ll keep them as friends on myspace and what not, keep in touch. I could do it because I had no feelings left. But they couldn’t. They would get mad or jealous. They would start fights. They thought they could handle it but they really couldn’t.

One guy I thought I was strictly friends with after I dumped him, started to message me and tell me he missed me. Then on Christmas, he’d text me to say “Merry Christmas,” and then of COURSE he has to stick in there, “I wish Santa put you under my tree.” Oh boo-hoo! Like, I can’t deal with that. I said we can be friends so don’t be messaging me cutesy, boyfriendy type shit like that or saying you miss me. That’s not a friend. I don’t want to hear that nonsense when I have no feelings left for you. That’s why it doesn’t work. You stay in their life still and feelings do not go away until you go away! So I said I don’t hate you but we have to cut off communication so we could move on. Haven’t talked to him since and it was MUCH easier for me to move on as well as him. No baggage, no drama, no getting in the way of future relationships.

The last guy I dumped and tried to stay friends with…well it worked for about a month. I told him I had to cut him and his friends off of my facebook/myspace so they wouldn’t know every detail about my life and what guys were talking to me, cuz that would only cause problems and I knew it would. So, we would casually instant message over the computer to see what the other was up to and whatv was up for the weekend and stuff. We’d even end up bumping into eachother out and we’d say hi, talk for a little, and that was it. I really thought it would work this time. But once again, No. First, someone I apparently forgot to delete on facebook, saw a picture of me and this new guy and went and showed my ex. Like, why!? It’s no longer his or your business!! I wanted it to be private but no. NEVER!

He was cool with it though, surprisingly. I just didn’t want him to know what the guy I was talking to looked like or what his full name was! Sure enough, it ruined everything for me and the new guy down the road.

What happend was really random. The new guy, let’s call him, Ray. Ray has a lot of girl friends he used to hang out with and one girl he used to casually hook up with. Let’s call her Tasha. Go figure, but my ex meets Tasha and her friends out one day and starts dating Tasha’s friend. So I’m dating Ray and my ex is dating Tasha’s friend. So my ex told her one day casually, “Oh my ex is talking to your friend Ray.” Then the girls are all surprised and start talking shit about Ray..about how he’s a player basically and there’s no way he would be talking to me like that. My ex and I are still cool so he ims me and tells me what was said over the computer. Of course now he thinks Ray is a scumbag and tells me I’m nieve. Basically putting in his two cents, believe what Ray’s so called friends said about him, and getting in the middle. So I brought it to Ray’s attention like a normal, mature person would, NOT accusing him of doing what the girls said he was doing, just letting him know what was going on. And sure enough ever since then, Ray backed off. Stopped hanging out with me completely. Like I did something wrong.

And you know why he backed off? Because my ex was still sorta in my life and caused drama between me and him. Not a good look for a new potential relationship. Even though I have NO feelings whatsoever for my ex, we recently broke up and keeping him in my life looks bad and sure enough, caused drama. RUINED IT FOR ME!

So CUT THEM OUT! Don’t let your ex that is your ex for a reason, ruin something that could be much better for you. Just cut off communication completely and if a year or so down the road you see them, say hello. But no need to be friends, what’s the point? You have friends already. You don’t need him.

Boys Who Can’t Seem to Make Time…

You know what sort of boys I’m talking about.  You probably even dealt with one of them or are dealing with their half-assness right now.

The guy that texts you almost every day…to say hi, or whatever..who knows what he says all you know is..he NEVER asks you to hang out.

I currently deal with one of these..not for long though. Why do these boys keep in touch with you through text, maybe even a call here and there..and even ask what you’re doing tonight, but no matter your response, you may as well say you’re doing something because they don’t ask you to hang out anyway. They are just making conversation apparently. Hey, what’s up, what are you doing tonight..cool. COOL? We just said we’ve got nothing going on which is an open invitation, and they still don’t ask us to hang out. Why ask what we’re doing then?

So I think they are just stringing us along by keeping in touch with us through text..and they will hang out at their conveinence. They are too busy being players! Screw that ladies. Their excuses are lame. If a guy wants to see you, he will go and see you. I’m sorry but you’re not too busy, you make time if you really want to. Hanging out with a girl once a fucking week or two isn’t shit. Don’t even bother texting her then, you’re wasting her time and you better believe she’s out there meeting others who actually want to see her.

Rihanna & Chris Brown…Need I Say More?

Okay I’m a little late on this one.

You all know what happend between this well-known celebrity couple. If not, let me run it down for you.

Apparently, these two left a pre-Grammy party in Chris’s rented Lambo. He received a text from another girl about hooking up and Rihanna went buck-wild and may have even started hitting him, and Chris ended up retaliating. He threatened her, punched her, choked her, bit her..and left her with the car once he pulled over.

Then I heard they got back together. Stupid. Then I heard they broke up. So I don’t really know anymore but the real issue here is the abuse.

Now I don’t think it’s right for a girl to hit a guy. If I get into a fight with a guy, it’s purely verbal and I do not put my hands on them. All it does is provoke them to put their hands on you because guys can get pretty angry, and you know they are stronger than you for the most part. But, no matter what she said or did, I don’t think it’s right AT ALL what Chris did. He went WAY too far. Way too fucking far. Was there a need for choking and biting? I think Rihanna had every right to be pissed that he was getting texts from other bitches. No, she shouldn’t have hit him if she even did that, but she has a right to get mad. So, why is he so mad if he’s the one that’s wrong? Maybe because she did put her hands on him. But, all he had to do was pull over and hold her hands down…not fight her back. It’s no contest, a guy can beat a girl most of the time unless you’re dating a pro wrestler chick or something. Like, why the fuck was he biting her? What’s the point in that? He went crazzzzzzy. Absolutely insane.

Guys: we know you’re tough. We know you’re probably stronger than us. But not by any means are you a man if you show us you’re tough by hurting a woman. We think you’re stronger when you handle an arguement calmly and with respect to the other person. We admire you more and think you’re more of a man in that way. When you go buckwild, and abuse somebody, especially a lady, you look like a piece of shit who has no respect for anyone and who doesn’t know how to properly communicate and come to a solution like an adult. What Chris did was insanely wrong no matter what the circumstances and I hope he is properly punished for it.

Her getting back with him was stupid too. She set a bad example for women and made us all look dumb and weak. There’s so many guys out there, why resort back to one who doesn’t respect you? And YES he will do it again. Be strong ladies, be strong.

If a man is always losing his cool, especially pretty quickly and over dumb shit, then you know he has a short temper and it is a huge warning sign. Lose him before it’s too late. NEVER let a man put his hands on you. If he’s aggressive, maybe doesn’t hit you but handles you aggressively, grabs your arms hard or pushes or shoves you at times, LOSE HIM. I know it’s hard but do it. You deserve better treatment than that and you know it!

Guys who abuse women are cowards!

Call or Text?

Texting is the new fad. Does anyone really call anymore? My friends always text me, my phone barely rings anymore! Guys always text me too. I get kind of annoyed because I feel like it’s just too easy to text. Like, anyone can do it. Why can’t guys just pick up the phone and call you? It shows more interest, doesn’t it? To me it does.

But I try not to think too deep into it because texting is just the new thing and everyone’s doing it. Even my parents are learning! I never would’ve thought they’d ever resort to texting. This guy I’m talking to..we’ve been texting for like, 2 months. But then’s it’s kind of sneaky because they can get away with anything. It’s not like you can hear what’s going on or even know where they are. Too easy.

We just started talking more on the phone though. That’s good right? I mean, it shows progess. But back in the day, like highschool and earlier, all boys did was call me. Remember when you’d sit on the phone at night for hours talking to a guy? I love that because that’s how you get to know them. Not through text! Come on now. Step it up guys!

What do you guys think? Would you rather guys text you in the beginning and have it progress to calling? Or would you rather them call you from the start? I think when a guy firsts gets your number, if they’re nervous or shy, texting is an easy way to break the ice and say hi. But I think if they’re asking you out on dates, they should start calling you more often. I mean it’s normal to text throughout the work day and say hi and it’s easier to get away with while busy or at work than calling. You do have a lunch break though! But I think once they are off work and whatnot, they should be calling to say hello or ask you out. Do you agree?

This texting crap is getting old and it’s sneaky. Any girl could be texting you while you’re with me! Right? Leave your feedback!

Men with Money..The Good & The Bad in Dating Them

Haha, that’s like Monopoly money or something.

But anyway, men with money..are they really a good catch? 

We as women can’t deny that we are smitten when a man has money. Why? Because we know we’ll be taken care of. Unless he’s stingy. We can expect to be treated like a queen..get taken out on fancy dates, fun dates, get free drinks, good gifts on the holidays..the whole nine. We’ll never have to worry about being bored and watching movies all night with a man (not that it’s necessarily a bad thing), because he can’t afford to go out and you feel bad going out without him.

I don’t know about you ladies, but I love doing things and being spontaneous. I’m sure you do too. Once in awhile, I want to be taken to a fancy restaurant, not one I can go to any day with friends. A special place. I want to be able to order dessert if I want to because he can afford it. I want to not feel bad ordering an alcoholic drink with my dinner instead of water. I want to go to Atlantic City for a day just to eat and gamble and enjoy the day with my man. I have never done any of these things with boyfriends because they can never afford it. They WANT to do it, but they never get around to making it happen because they never end up having the money. 

I’m really not a gold digger. I have some nice things but I don’t have a million Coach purses or brand name everything. But sometimes I just want to feel special and be taken somewhere nice! Do you agree ladies? I think so.

So it’s nice to have a guy who can take care of himself and you. I think women should definitely be able to take care of themselves as well but it’s nice when a man can treat you here and there without complaining about wasting his precious money….cheap ass.

But then, sometimes those “well off” guys are just too flashy. I feel like they show off their money too much to the ladies. They act like they can do anything for you and you can have whatever you like, (like T.I.’s song), but this doesn’t mean they are a great guy overall or can treat you right. Sometimes these flashy guys are too into themselves and think that money can buy you or make you happy. Nope. To an extent it makes us happy but it’s not all we look for in men. 

Then you have the guys in their 20’s who are still in college..which is a very good thing and is definitely what I look for in a guy. Most people today take much longer to finish school too. So it’s like, these guys are good in that they are determined and have goals, but they’re friggen broke! What’s a girl to do? I don’t think you shouldn’t date them if they’re broke, we all have our money issues today right? It’s really hard out there lately. But then you have to settle for more nights in and no spontaneous dates. Feeling bad to even ask if you two can go see a movie. 

I’m not saying going out all the time is a good thing to do nor is tons and tons of fancy dates and gifts! I’m saying in the middle. Nights in to relax and cuddle are important. Going out on a nice date once in a while or for a fun day out somewhere different is important too, to keep that spark alive! If you’re always broke and staying in, one of you will get bored and cheat or want to break up, no? I’d think so. So I think it’s important to have a little bit of both in order to have a healthy relationship.

But back to those college boys a lot of us women are dating, including myself. Do you ladies find it hard to be patient with these boys? To have to stay in a lot and be bored, and to even have to pay for a movie night out or dinner more often than usual, because our college boy is broke for a good reason? The good reason being, he’s in school. They have a crappy, beat up car, but they bought it themselves. They wear the same clothes all the time, which they also bought themselves but can’t afford to regularly shop to update their wardrobe so it seems like they don’t have much of a style. Do any of these things bother you or matter to you? Are you one of those who just has to date a guy who has a nice car? 

Sometimes these guys have nice things because of their parents. But do you want that? I don’t because I want my man to be able to do things on his own. They may have a beat up car but at least they bought it themselves. What do you ladies think? 

Does money matter to you when it comes to boys you date? Does it matter a little bit or not at all? Does your man or a past man take you out all the time because he has the money, and he’s a good guy too? Does your man or a past man never do anything with you because he’s broke, but he’s in college? Let me know by leaving your comments below!

What Happend to the Gentlemen?

When I think of a gentleman, I think of Ne-Yo.

He’s the perfect example of what a gentleman should be, well at least musically since I don’t know him personally or how he treats women.

But, if you listen to his music, every song is sweet. His lyrics are romantic, passionate, and very gentleman-like. You’ll never hear him curse or swear, call a woman a bitch, talk about sex in a raunchy, dirty way, or brag about his money and cars as if that is what us women really want. It’s a plus, yes, but it’s not gonna make us fully happy you silly boys.

I know it’s a new time…a new century…guys are not how they used to be. Back in the day, a man would always hold the door for you, buy you flowers, pay for your dates, and go out of his way to chase a woman. He would take her out on dates and be romantic. Put his arm around her at the movie. At least that’s how I feel it was. Obviously I wasn’t living in that time so correct me if I’m wrong. But all of these things seem to be “old-fashioned” and I wish they were still in fashion!

Nowadays, it seems like, every guy I date, is a gentleman to an extent. They still hold the door most of the time, pay for at least the first few dates, pick me up, but that’s all standard. They really don’t go that extra mile. Maybe I just haven’t found the right ones. They barely buy me drinks, they never take me to a nice place, and I”m not talking Friday’s or Chili’s, a NICE place, something that costs more than $30 for a meal, they’re not romantic at all, flowers only come on special occasions, a single rose for no reason..those are extint, and their way of chasing you is a text every few days to see what club you’ll be at…or maybe a myspace message.

Oh yeah, they seem to never tell you your beautiful anymore either. It’s more like, “You’re so hot.” or “Hey sexy.” “Come over.” (Like we don’t know what this one means.) ”Wanna F*ck?.” I feel dirty writing the full word lol. I bet all you ladies reading this have heard all of these phrases a million times. What the hell happend to the word beautiful? And what about make love?

Guys just don’t care anymore. They don’t go out of their way anymore. They’re cheap. They give up way to easily. Texting is not making an effort to show you care. Call the damn girl. TAKE HER OUT. Meeting up with her at the bar is all good and fun but if you actually like her and don’t just want to get some, you have to distinguish that by seeing her outside the drunken bar scene. Take her out on a date so she will feel special and not like just another hoe you want to bang.

Tell her how you feel. Honestly, yeah we love to hear that we’re hot and sexy. But not from a new guy that barely knows us. That makes us feel like a hoe. If you want to make her feel special use a nicer word. Compliment her smile or eyes and tell her you think she’s beautiful and you noticed her from afar or something. Something different and more romantic. Do you know how many scumbags calls us sexy, hot, and damn look at that ass! No! You do NOT say that to a lady. That won’t win us over. Those guys deserve a slap in the face for even speaking to a woman like that. But we don’t cuz we think “that’s how guys are today.” Have some respect.

I know alotta women out there have lost respect for themselves and are insecure and feel that fake boobs and short skirts are the way to get a guy’s attention. They ruined it for us. Yes, guys like that for banging but not for dating. So if you want to be looked at as more than just a hoe, act and dress appropriately. Don’t get sloppy drunk either.

I wish guys would stop looking at girls in that way. Always commenting on her “tits” or her “ass.” Have you ever been around a guy or guys watching tv, and a celeb like Kim Kardashian comes on the screen, and hear them say, “She’s so beautiful.” Yeah right. A girl might say that but a guy would most likely comment on her ass. Or say she’s hot or “I’d do her.” They look at women purely as sex objects. And I’m tired of it. And I’m tired of them not going the extra mile. Friggen dancing and grinding putting their hands all over you, coming EXTREMELY close to your forbidden areas. What the hell? Who do you think you are? I know they are drunk but still.

Guys have lost respect for women. I know some of it has to do with hip hop, cuz I do love hip hop but I can’t stand the damn lyrics. The whole song is about what he wants to do to you. Do you honestly think a song like that makes me feel good or important? No. It doesn’t get me excited either. It makes me feel disgusting and annoyed. When Ne-Yo sings though, I think to myself, “Wow, that’s so sweet. He’s so romantic. I wish a guy would do that to me.” Even some of these r&b songs, they’ll have this romantic beat and beautiful voices you just want to slow dance to or kiss to, but then the lyrics are super dirty. That doesn’t seem right.

So….what has happend to the gentleman? Are they still out there?